Freelancers and Entrepreneurs — Let’s Examine Our Present and Recently Past Influences

What are the influences that are either helping or hindering you in your business and personal life? By making ourselves aware of them, we are more likely to work toward positive changes. In this article, my goal is to get you to examine your present and recently past influences.

The people we know, work and play with. Yes, we are heavily influenced by the people we let into our lives. If we hang out with negative, critical, complaining people, we can easily lose our enthusiasm and drive. If we join groups and make friends with those we want to emulate, we will be on our way. It is just like tennis and chess. The way one gets better is to play with someone who is better than we are. I am not suggesting that you drop the friends you have now, but I am suggesting that you join groups of winners, network with people who are known as successes and volunteer for worthy causes.

Life-long learning with books, tapes and magazines. It is astonishing to find out how few people read a book after graduation. I am sure that none of you reading this article would fall into that category. However, I must mention the wonderful scope of topics available today in book form, the plethora of tapes that inform and motivate — I listen and re-listen to tapes by Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn, Earl Nightingale and am always influenced to take a new action step toward success.

Visit your public library. It offers a wealth of influence — I always use my driving time to listen to tapes and CDs. In addition, there are almost too many magazines to read. I have found that the best way to benefit from the great information is to scan and then only read those articles that pertain to some part of my business or life. No matter what your specialty is, there are magazines that address your problems and situations.

Physical activity and a focus on health. One of the strongest influences on my well-being, business acumen, and energy level is daily exercise and sensible nutrition. Studies have shown that there are so many side benefits from regular exercise and proper eating that one could easily fill a wall with post-it notes listing them.

By pushing oxygen to the heart and brain, we keep both healthy and smart. If you are having a difficult time getting started, I suggest finding a buddy to go to the gym with you or work out with you. In the fitness classes I teach, the people who participate have become friends and they cheer each other on — another positive influence.

I ask you again, what are the influences in your freelance living? Are they helping or hindering your progress? What new and better influences can you and will you embrace in the future? What bad influences and toxic companions are presently draining you of your energy and passion for living?

It is time to make two lists — one with the bad influences (past and present) and one with the good influences. Congratulate yourself on the good influences and continue to pursue them. On the list with the bad influences, add an action step and a new influence to replace each one. Take action and you will be on your way to success!

May I Present Myself?

We all want to be accepted on our merits. We want to be judged for the good work we do or the value we can bring to an organization in the form of experience and education. Everyone wants to be liked for who they are and not some fake mold they fit into. In a perfect world, perhaps it would be just this way.

In general, however, we are judged first on sensory cues: the way we dress, speak, smell, and conduct ourselves. You may be the most qualified applicant the human resources professional has ever seen but if you haven’t bathed in a week, your résumé will go to the bottom of the pile. Let’s face it: it’s human nature to evaluate by our senses first. It’s all that’s accessible to us in order to make initial judgments about whether or not we wish to go deeper. Are you worth getting to know better? Do we want to give you the benefit of the doubt and allow you to prove your talents and abilities? Then we will instinctively, often unconsciously, make evaluations about character, intelligence, flexibility, and aptitude by the image presented to us.

You see, there is almost an equal importance in the image a person presents as there is in the abilities he or she brings to the workplace. How we dress, how we speak, and our behavior tells others what we think about them. If a man shows up for an interview in a raggedy old pair of pants and a windbreaker, the message he sends is that he does not consider the interviewer or the company worth getting dressed up for. So why should he be considered worth hiring?

People judge character by the manners they see. They assess professionalism and prudence by the clothes we wear and the way we wear them. They read something in our style and wonder whether or not we’re educated by the way we use the English language. There’s no point in getting worked up about it; it’s just the way people operate. What we must do is recognize that in order to help people see the most important things about us-our values, our talents, our virtues and strengths-we must clear away as many impediments as we can. What we do when considering the image we present in any situation is remove the roadblocks that prevent people from wanting to know us better and truly see the important characteristics that tell them who we really are.

Take your manners, for instance. Do you know how to introduce yourself? Do you know how to introduce someone else to an executive? Do you know how to conduct yourself in a fine restaurant? Are you aware of habits you may be practicing that irritate others? Maybe you need a course in etiquette. Etiquette is simply the timeless rules of behavior that prevent us from being unintentionally offensive, rude, unkind, unfair, or self-centered. Gracious manners always make others feel comfortable. They tell people that you are capable of professional behavior that invites responsibility. If you need improvement in this area, there are any number of courses in etiquette you can take advantage of. You can also go to your local library and find the section on etiquette and refresh yourself on the guidelines that fit your need. Gathering the rules for good behavior is not hard. It’s like driving: you learn, you practice, and pretty soon you aren’t focused anymore on the mechanics of driving; you’re enjoying the act of driving and appreciating the scenery. Seek the information and then practice it.

Need some help with the way you present yourself physically? Find someone who dresses impeccably and tell him or her how much you admire their style. Ask them if they will mentor you in the image department. Don’t be embarrassed-most anyone would be flattered by this and would delight in assisting you! Tell them you need someone to take you under their wing and give you a crash course on looking like a million bucks. Remember to be willing to take their advice! Style is all about learning basics and then modifying to suit the situation. If you need to learn the basics, don’t fight with what you’re being told. Another resource is the invaluable cable television show “What Not To Wear” on The Learning Channel (TLC). Check your local listings to find the program and listen carefully how the consultants explain the rules of dressing appropriately.

Presenting yourself with excellence means that you may have to do some search-and-rescue operations: you must search out what you are aware you need and rescue yourself from the disaster of not getting how important this can be! Don’t let the sensory information you offer to the people you meet put up a brick wall. If you really want to be judged on your merits, you must make the path to your character smooth and easy to navigate. Make yourself presentable and acceptable so they can get to know the real you!

Presentation Paranoia

“The human brain starts working the moment you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.” (Sir George Jessel)

Have you had this feeling before? Rest assured you are not alone. You might be one of the many who would rate your fear of public speaking alongside or ahead of death! Your fear may translate itself to “FEAR”Forget Everything And Run!!

Having the ability to present yourself and your message to an audience, whether internal or external, is a necessary skill for a good manager and leader. By following some simple steps you can improve your skills in this area, reduce your fear and build your confidence. As you have more success in making presentations you may well find yourself actually looking forward to doing more of them. Clients, colleagues and other staff will be more responsive and supportive. You will realise the principles apply to groups of 2 – 200 and above, and whether sitting across a desk or in a conference hall.

Why do you want to improve your skills in this area? It might be to reduce the feelings of the nerves – or even panic. Maybe to reduce the risk of making yourself look a fool in front of the audience? Or you may want to be able to present yourself and your message with more confidence and conviction to win people over. Perhaps you want to be able to look forward to making presentations? Whatever your reasons, the principles we will cover here will help you.

The biggest challenge for most people when asked to make a presentation is the way their imaginations start to operate. All sorts of thoughts begin to swirl around – and how many are to do with things going wrong, fluffing the words, audience reactions etc. etc. and compared with it going successfully and being enjoyable? One way to change this initial response is to follow the basic ideas covered below. Also, accept that it is not a bad thing to have some nerves. They trigger a chemical reaction which, harnessed properly, will help to make your presentation a success.

The secret is to remember that when you see good presenters, you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg. A great deal has gone on beneath the surface to enable them to be the person you see. For those who have a real fear of presenting, they make the problem worse. They go into denial of the presentation, use this to keep putting off doing the things beneath the surface with all sorts of excuses and reasons – so that when they come to the actual presentation it does not go well. Then they can say, “Told you so! See, I’m no good at presentations!” The art of self-fulfilling prophecy continues.

To prevent the paranoia – make time to do the fundamentals! Plan and prepare. Also, have a realistic level of expectation. Too many people, when having to make a presentation, spend too much time focusing on themselves. There is a balance to be met – and the secret for a good presentation is to keep the focus on the audience, and your subject and objective. Get the first two right and the third will take care of itself!

To get your planning underway, ask yourself some simple questions:

WHAT: Consider the purpose of the presentation, to inform, influence, inspire, generate action? Be more specific, what are my objectives from this? What are the key things you want the audience to take away with them – or to do?

WHO: Put your focus on the people you will be presenting to. How many will they be? What are their objectives? What is their level of knowledge? Will they be a “willing” audience or were they sent? When you have the answers to these points, you have some idea of what level to pitch your presentation.

WHERE: Is the presentation going to be made in a meeting room, someone’s office, a large venue? What will be the layout? How flexible is it? (You can always ask to have it set-up to suit you, though a boardroom table is hard to adjust!) What equipment is available? What do you need to take?

WHEN: What time of day are you presenting? Are there other presenters before and after you? What impact will these two answers have on your approach to the presentation?

HOW: How long have you got? Remember, longer is not necessarily better! Also, although this may seem odd if you are nervous about presentations, it is harder to plan and prepare a brief, effective presentation than to organise a longer one. (Churchill, amongst others, is quoted as saying something along the lines of, “It takes me 10 minutes to prepare for a 2 hour speech – and 2 hours to prepare for a 10 minute one.”)

Put the answers to these together and you are in a position to begin the preparation of the presentation itself. Some things to consider are:

  • Pull together the broad content – what is it you want to say? Think about the headlines for each part. (You can find your own way to do this, though creativity helps with approaches such as mindmapping or just Post-it notes! These are better than just pages of notes.)
  • Gather information – get facts, opinions, research and anything else which might help.
  • Check back with your objectives – and the audience’s. Make sure there is a match.
  • Organise all of this into a sensible sequence. Have a beginning, middle and end, preferably building up the emphasis of your message.
  • Develop a story – make sure that there is a flow to the overall presentation. Look to build in hooks for key points or messages. People often recall stories and anecdotes more than dry facts.
  • Check the plan against the time you will have. (You will speak at around 100-120 words a minute when your nerves are under control. A 15 minute presentation is around 1,700 words or so, which is only 4-5 pages of A4.) Also remember, you are speaking so choose your language with this in mind, especially when making notes.
  • What do you need to support your story or message? Visual aids, props, notes, other material which might be suitable. Remember, these things are there to support you not to take over. If using Powerpoint, avoid “death by…” and use slides sparingly – and keep them clear and easy to read!

When you are comfortable that you have the overall structure, content and support material organised you will feel more comfortable. Check it flows sensibly, covers the main points, meets the objectives and you may even start to look forward to the presentation. PLEASE now work at one vital part – your opening!

The old saying, “You never get a second chance to make a good first impression” is so true. The audience are judging you on many levels as you start and this will influence how they will respond. Add to the fact that you are fighting your own nerves and probably think you have enough to worry about!! By concentrating on getting the opening right, you can achieve several aims in one.

It is important to create your own opening, it can become your “anchor” to help you manage yourself. Practice introducing yourself, stating your reason for being there, what you want to achieve and how you want the audience to be. (eg, when can they ask questions.) If you can deliver this part almost without thinking, you can keep your attention on the audience and their responses. If you are worried about what to say, you will be so internally focused you will not be able to pay attention to them. Whether you use humour, stories or challenging facts to start – or anything else – is a matter of choice. However, be careful with humour. You never know who may be offended – or how you and others will react if the joke or story falls flat.

Another important thing is to handle your nerves. First of all, realise that it is OK to have them! The trick is to learn to use them to your advantage and to not let them take you over. There are some simple things you can do and by practising them you will find that they have applications in all sorts of areas of life.

Visualisation (or “imaginisation”) – put yourself in the presentation and see it going well, you in control of the room and the audience. Experience yourself handling questions, making your points, generally enjoying it. Feel how good it will be at the end of the presentation when you realise that you have achieved your objectives. See the positive.

Breathing – this is one of the most effective ways of handling the adrenaline buzz that comes with heightened nervousness. Take a deep, slow breath – feel your diaphragm moving out as you do this. Hold the breath for several seconds – then let it go, slowly. (Press your hand just under your ribs and feel the lower lungs empty and help them on the way.) Hold the breath again before repeating the in-breath. (Some use a count of 7-4-7-4 for this.) Do this for 3 full cycles and you will notice your heart rate slowing and begin to feel the oxygen levels rise in your blood. Careful of more than this, you may start to hyperventilate!

When you move to start your presentation, take a deep breath as above, step to where you will deliver from, look around the audience as you breathe out and establish eye contact. Now you are ready to begin.

The other element to prepare is your ending. Many nervous presenters are fine with the middle, content part of their sessions. They let themselves down with the front and back – and often lose the potential impact because of this. Work out how you want to summarise and then close things off. If all else fails, use the basic rule, tell ‘em what you’re going to tell ‘em, tell ‘em and tell ‘em what you told ‘em.

“Begin at the beginning and go on until you come to the end, then stop.” Lewis Carroll

This is just a start to cover some of the basics. When you are comfortable with these, there are many more areas you can work on. There are ways you can help yourself if you need to develop your presentation and speaking skills apart from training organisations such as ours. The Professional Speakers’ Association, www.professionalspeakers.org has local “chapters around the UK. You can also find a local branch of Toastmasters International, who will offer encouragement and training – although in a different style.